You are cordially invited.
The other day a beautiful invitation arrived. Before I even opened the envelope, I didn’t recognize the return address and quickly went down the roster in my head of upcoming weddings, baptisms, communions, and showers this could possibly be for. Nothing was coming to mind. I was at a loss. No wonder, it was none of those, it was a formal invite for my daughter to participate in the upcoming local cotillion group.
I have to be honest, I asked a friend about it briefly and if she was considering it for her daughter, but never gave it much thought until yesterday. See, no one in the community or at school has even mentioned it. So it didn’t seem like a big deal, but I was intrigued because in the digital age of lost manners, I would love to introduce my daughter to the way things should be. Of course we stress how important manners are and teach them at home, but she’s getting into the tween stage were deliberately making a point to avoid them in my presence is becoming a.) a habit I want her to break and b.) a form of tween rebelliousness. Basically, without beating around the bush, I want it instilled in that pretty little brain of hers that when mom isn’t around, you remember your pleases, thank yous, and may I’s.
So I did what most moms do. I went straight to Facebook and asked…
“Cotillion? Yay…nay…? Would love to hear your thoughts / experiences. Thanks!”
Gadzooks! The response was an overwhelming YES! Women and men who I respect immensely not only had amazing personal experiences, but brought up points that I would have never even thought of. OK, first many I should backtrack for those who have no idea what this post is even about.
What is cotillion?
The way I first explained it to my daughter was by letting her know it was a party with manners. She would get to wear her best party dress and practice her manners with other kids in different social situations. This got her attention fast. Dress up? Other kids? All being polite to each other? She begged me to sign her up.
There would be six parties held over the course of the following school year at the local country club, and the children would focus on “development of personal standards, confidence, self respect, respect for others and good manners. Children will practice correct social etiquette and enjoy traditional social dances in a fun atmosphere.”
How to dress for cotillion?
Yes, there is a strict dress code. Young ladies are expected to wear short party dresses with their shoulders covered, short white gloves, socks or tights and closed toe dress shoes. Young men are to wear suits, ties and dress shoes.
This all sounds wonderful, but I still wanted to hear from my cohorts. And here is what Facebook chimed in with:
Here are some of my favorite responses:
Welp, friends… looks like Kiddo is going to cotillion! Not only do I agree with every point made above, I’m really excited for her to experience this. Make sure to stay tuned because I plan on documenting her entire experience here on The JetSet Family!